Have What You Want
by Gini Grey
From the Nov/Dec 2007 Issue of the Psychic Reader Magazine
With a strong focus on the laws of attraction these days many have been practicing the various steps of creating and manifesting: envisioning the outcome, staying in a positive attitude in order to attract it, and allowing the Universe to serendipitously line everything up. However, that final piece of actually having it come into your life long enough to enjoy it may still be elusive.
It’s easy for people to get revved up in anticipation of manifesting their goals, only to end up disappointed. This can happen for several reasons, the most important being the missing ingredient of ‘havingness’. Havingness is the ability to be in the same space with something else; to actually have the desired goal, object or outcome in your life. Some may get very close to attracting their desire into their life, but not close enough to have it. Some may actually get what they want only to have it slip through their fingers. Its one thing to attract money or a wonderful partner or a great new job into your life, but it’s another to have it stay there. Yet, we have the power not only to create what we want in our life, but to shift any limitations that may be blocking us from having it.
Before we delve into the world of havingness and its delicate intricacies, let’s look at each of the steps of creating to see how all the pieces fit together. Sidetracking any of these steps can delay or derail one’s desires from fully manifesting.
The first step is to realize how powerful you really are. Each one of us on this earth is a magnificent spiritual being living in and operating through a human body on this 3D planet. As you connect to yourself as spirit, bigger than your body, mind and emotions, you feel your true essence of light, joy and ease. It’s from this place that you create your heart’s desires. If you operate from your analytical mind or emotional body, you may not like what you create. The important thing to realize is that you create everything in your life. No one is doing this for you unless you give your power to them, and this in itself is a choice point in creating.
Look over your life to see all the things you’ve manifested. The relationships, jobs, homes, material objects, finances and so on. Everything wonderful and not so wonderful is a result of you attracting it and accepting it into your life. First reflect over all the things you view as positive in your life. Where were you creating from? Was it from a place of certainty, enthusiasm, ease, love or joy? Was it something you envisioned at some point? Did it feel good to have these creations in your life?
Now reflect over the perceived negative stuff of your life. I say ‘perceived’ because often these so-called negative experiences turn out to be perfect growth opportunities you’ve attracted in order to learn, heal and move forward in life. With the unpleasant experiences though, chances are you were creating from a place of fear, doubt, guilt or some sense of smallness or powerlessness. As the saying goes, we reap what we sow, so noticing the thoughts, emotions and states of being you are in will often determine the direction you’re going.
It’s empowering to review your life and notice the patterns you’ve woven. What fun to recall how a daydream years ago about living in the perfect house or community has now become a reality! Also what a revelation it can be to see how a lack in self-esteem attracted a dysfunctional relationship, yet at the same time provided the grist for eventually developing self-love. Nothing in this Universe goes unused, but wouldn’t it be more enjoyable to create from a higher place of truth and joy and actually manifest your true heart’s desires?
When you operate from your higher self, spiritual self, god center or whatever term you use to describe that bigger, eternal essence of who you really are; you create miracles in your life on a daily basis. When connected to your spiritual self, you know what you really want, which is the second step in the creating process. You need to know what you want in order to get started. Much like taking a vacation, you first have to decide where you want to go. It’s helpful to let your spiritual self decide on the direction. If you let your mind or body override your heart’s and soul’s desires, you may end up creating from a place of ‘should’, from logic or emotional reaction. Our analytical minds are great for organizing, detailing, planning and doing taxes, but limited in terms of seeing the bigger pictures of our lives. Moreover, our bodies are like children; expressing emotions, needing rest, fun, play, exercise and so on, but it may not always be motivated by higher principles. To access your spiritual truth, you simply need to enter the stillness within and listen to your deeper voice.
Once you are centered within your spiritual self and have decided what you want, the rest is easy. Well, it may not seem easy at first, but it definitely comes from a state of ease. You cannot create from a place of effort or struggle. It only slows down the process or even halts it altogether. Creating and manifesting is a spiritual practice. Sure, we can build houses and knit sweaters with our physical bodies, plan activities and strategies with our logical minds, but to bring together ideal circumstances, people and events, we need the power of our spirit. This is why letting go of the outcome is essential. When we try to hold onto something or focus too much on the hows and details we move into a state of effort. Instead, by trusting our spiritual selves and the universe to guide us, we attract exactly what we need into our lives to manifest our dreams. Every day we can sit back and be delightfully surprised by how our life is unfolding.
When we get the inner nudging to take action, if we take it from a place of ease, all goes well. When we force things, try too hard or get into a state of effort or resistance, all ‘you-know-what’ breaks loose. Ease is a spiritual state of lightness and effortlessness. It’s being in the flow of life. When we are in ease we feel relaxed yet alert. Let yourself be in this state now by noticing the easy flow of your breath. Let your whole body and mind relax. How does this feel? Now move into a state of effort by tightening your whole body; squeeze your hands into fists and grimace your face. Notice the difference? Whenever you feel your mind or body go into effort, you can simply choose to relax and move back into your natural state of ease. This is the place to create from. This is the state that will support you in manifesting your true desires.
Once your creations come into your life, are you ready to have them? Are you ready to enjoy financial abundance, fulfilling relationships, optimal health, your dream career and anything else that makes your heart sing? All that is required is a high level of havingness in these areas. Havingness is a state of being, much like ease, abundance and trust. It is a spiritual state where everything just is. The only thing that blocks us from this way of being is our conditioning and limiting beliefs. Once you identify these and let them go, you are free to have your wildest dreams.
To become aware of this state of havingness, notice everything you have in your life right now. For what are you grateful? Do you have friendships that are meaningful or a significant other that is a great match? Do you have a fabulous home? Are you living in your ideal community? Are you able to easily manifest and have money or own beautiful objects? How about hobbies, vacations and other things you enjoy? What about non-monetary or material things such as emotions; can you have your sadness, anger, joy and enthusiasm? Do you have self-esteem and self-affinity? Do you have the ability to communicate clearly? Can you have peace and balance in your life?
Make a list of all the things you have in your life that bring a smile to your face. Notice how you feel about having these. You may feel joy and a vibration of gratitude. Now reflect on how easily some of these came into your life. Which things are you able to have with ease or have in abundance? Tune into this effortless state of havingness. Close your eyes and notice what it feels like to simply be able to ‘have’ something. Havingness is not about deserving. It transcends the dichotomy of being good enough or not good enough to have what you want. Become aware of this subtle energy. Let this vibration flow through your whole body, down into the cells. How does your life look from this vantage point?
If any of your dreams have not manifested, or if they have come into your life only to quickly vanish; it usually means one of three things: it’s a desire not coming from your true spiritual self, you haven’t let go of the outcome in order to allow it to manifest (in other words you are in a state of effort or trying to make it happen), or there is a limitation preventing you from having it in your life. Once you are sure you are choosing from your higher self and you are creating from a state of ease, it’s time to release any limits and raise the bar on your havingness.
In order to identify any blocks on your path, imagine taking several steps towards your desired goal. With each step, notice what comes up for you: sensations, thoughts, and feelings. If you become aware of any limitations, pause and reflect on each one. Where does it originate? Whose message is it? How long have you been carrying it? What would happen if you were to let it go? Remember who you really are; a spiritual being bigger than any fears, limitations or doubts in your space. Feel your bigness and release the block by seeing and feeling it disappear from your space. Once you take the final step into having your goal, notice how this feels. Again, if you detect any limiting thoughts or emotions, choose to be bigger than these and release them. Feel the energy of gratitude for having what you want and let this vibration flow through your whole body.
We create our highest wishes from a place of joy, enthusiasm and gratitude. Do what you can to stay in these vibrations and release any limiting ones and soon you will have all that you desire.
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