Direction

Posted on March 1st, 2011

“If we do not change our direction, we are likely to end up in the direction we are headed.” Chinese Proverb

directionYour destiny depends on the direction you set for yourself. If you consciously choose the path you want to follow, you’ll be less likely to give your power away to other people, situations and circumstances. And you’ll be more likely to rise above past conditioning and limiting beliefs.

We each have the ability to create a new reality for ourselves. One filled with an array of possibilities. When we listen to our heart and soul for direction, we enjoy every step of the journey. If we follow the lead of our logical mind, or worse yet, the logic of others, we risk getting sidetracked, stuck, or repeating old patterns.

We are the source of our joy and our sorrow, our ease and our struggle. It is up to us to determine what we want to experience and what direction will lead us there.

Insights on Your Direction

♦ What determines your direction? Does your family, friends, trends, or the general public decide for you? Does your logical mind plan every step you take, or do you listen to the whispering of your soul and the longings of your heart? How much do you trust yourself?

♦ What direction are you going? If you carry on in the same direction, where will you most likely end up? Reflect over the different areas of your life. Are you waiting for such and such to happen before you change direction? What are you tolerating in the process?

♦ What direction do you want to go? What do you want to experience in your life in terms of your health, relationships, finances, career, personal growth, spirituality, creativity, and other important areas? Is there an overall theme within the direction you want, such as ease, freedom, abundance, balance?

Inspiration on Finding the Best Direction

♦ Reflect over the areas of your life you are happy and content with. What led you in this direction? Was it your logical mind or were you more influenced by your passion, intuition, an inner urging, or a synchronistic event? What supports you to stay on this path? Is it trust, patience, appreciation, persistence, faith? Imagine bringing these qualities to all the areas of your life and all the decisions you make. Would your direction change?

♦ Reflect over the areas of your life you are not satisfied with. What led you here? Who or what influenced your direction? Did past conditioning, old programming or limiting beliefs play a role? Know that all of this is in the past and you can choose a new direction starting right now. Write down or visualize where you want to go. Choose a new path to follow.

♦ Listen to your heart and soul for direction. Trust your higher self to see the bigger picture and lead you in the best direction. Take time each day to get out of your head and settle into your body. From there, connect with your heart. Close your eyes and place a hand over your heart and ask what it wants for you today. Then go deeper into your soul and ask for guidance from your higher self. Listen to your intuition for what steps to take next.

What supports you to choose your best direction? Please share in the comment section - I’d love to hear from you.


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9 Responses to “Direction”

  1. linda Says:
    March 3rd, 2011 at 7:23 am

    Hi Ginni,
    When we are at a crossroads in our life, how can we tell if we are listening to our intuition( our hearts), or we are wanting a certain choice out of fear or running from something.
    For example, I currently live in the state I grew up in, but I lived in Colorado for almost 5 yrs. I loved it there, it had been a dream of mine since I was young and finally went out at 35 yo. I felt more at home there than I ever did where I grew up. I didn;t think I was ever moving home. Then, my older sister who had lived in California for 20 yrs. moved home. Looking back I think old patterns came into play and I feel I was influenced into going home in part because she now was home. I talked myself into believing that if I was married I would stay in colorado because I loved it, but because I was still single I should be home near family. Well, of course ever since I moved home my relationship with my family has actually gotten worse. A very dysfunctional family, I might ad. Lots of blaming and codependency. My mom is getting older and also not well. I used to be in the role of the caretaker before going to colorado but after being away for that long I grew out of that need. So, because I refuse to be in a role my siblings keep wanting to force me in, they keep getting more distant and angry at me. Five yrs. after I moved home I had a house fire and almost died. The first thing that entered my mind when I woke up in the hospital was to thank god I could still see so I could see colorado again. Six months later , miraculously a newborn came my way that needed foster care, I took him and adopted him a yr later!! Miracle, I was 47yo, never had married or had a child which I had always wanted. Of course, my family was great in the beginning and now are back to the same old patterns of blame and trying to push me back into a role I no longer want to be in. The message seems loud and clear to me, and that is “You don’t want to do what we expect of you , then we are withholding our care and love to you”. Anyway, I’d rather be myself than do something I don’t want to or can’t do just for their approval. What is that saying, “i’d rather be hated for who I am , than be loved for who I am not”. So, after I adopted this baby I have gone to colorado for a visit many times , but have not moved there yet, not sure why? I like where I presently live, which is not too close to my family, about an hour away. So my dilemma is this. How can I tell whether I am staying here because I have talked myself into liking where I am because I have developed maybe a comfort level and now it has been a long time since I lived in colrado. I moved home 10 yrs. ago. Can you believe I’ve been thinking about colorado for ten yrs?? or how would I know if I went to colorado if it was just to get away from the dysfunction of my family or that I truly wanted to go . I guess the question is how to decipher whether or not we are running from something that maybe we don’t want to raise our child around or going to something we love.?
    Sorry so long
    Linda

  2. Gini Grey Says:
    March 3rd, 2011 at 5:17 pm

    Hi Linda,

    That’s such an important question - are we listening to our heart and soul or choosing out of fear or running away. What I often do when I am at a crossroads is go through my mind, body, heart and soul. Each has a say and until I can find some collaberation, I feel confused.

    I start with my mind (because it’s so dominant:) I ask what the pros and cons are (to staying or going). Then I thank it and move out of my head and into my body. I breath into my body until I get a sense of what emotions it feels about the decision. Then I thank my body and I place a hand over my heart and feel into the love in there. Then I ask what it wants. Then I get centered (see article under Spiritual Insights category called “Centered Within”)and connect with my higher, spiritual self and ask for guidance. Try this for yourself and see what comes up.

    From what you said Linda, it does sound to me as though you moved back to your home town out of family loyalty and obligation etc., not from what your heart and soul necessarily want. What would be better for your child? What would be better for you?

    If you still love Colorado, it sounds like that is the place your heart wants to be. Running away from a dysfunctional family is not a bad thing (think of the movie where the woman keeps getting threatening phone calls and then the police interrupt and say “get out of the house now, the killer is in the house”).

    It doesn’t sound like you are a fit with your family. You have grown out of old unhealthy roles and they haven’t. Just because you were born into that family doesn’t mean you have to stay with them forever. We’re in a time of consciousness on the planet where we are letting go of family karma and old ties and relationships that no longer fit.

    It sounds like you just need to give yourself permission to have what you want and be who you are, as you said. This may mean setting stronger boundaries with family members and still live in your home town, or move away where it’s easier to set boundaries. Put fear aside and notice what you’re most drawn to.

    Imagine all three options - 1) stay and interact as you have been, 2) stay but set boundaries and see your family less often, or 3) move to Colerado. How does each scenario feel? Notice your body’s physical and gut reaction to each, then notice your heart’s response. Go with what feels right, not what seems logical. Trust yourself.

    Keep me posted - I’d love to hear how it goes.

    Take care,

    Gini

  3. linda Says:
    March 6th, 2011 at 9:30 am

    Hi Ginni,
    Thankyou for such wonderful suggestions. I am going to give all of these thought and my heart . I will let you know what I decided.
    Thankyou so much.
    I love your site!
    Linda

  4. Tiffany Says:
    March 9th, 2011 at 9:36 pm

    Hello,

    I am in the exact same situation as you Linda! I lived in Colorado with my husband and small children for 5 years. I absolutely loved it and loved being away from my dysfunctional family. It was hard at first, but I blossomed and felt I was taking charge of my life. My husband suddenly abandoned my kids and I. My family influenced me to move back to AZ and so they could help us out. Since being here almost a year, I miss Colorado, my life there and question myself every day if I made the right decision. I feel Colorado is a better environment for my kids and where I would choose. But is it wrong to take my kids away from their grandparents and cousins? There is a lot of dysfunction and co-dependency as well as alcoholism. I want to break the cycle, but don’t want them to feel unloved by just having me around. They do have a couple cousins that live in CO. I am struggling with this. Any insight?

  5. Gini Grey Says:
    March 11th, 2011 at 2:29 pm

    Hello Tiffany,

    That’s so interesting that you and Linda both have similar situations and love Colorado - I’ll have to visit there one day as it must be lovely.

    That’s a tough question - is it wrong to take your kids away from their grandparents and cousins? It’s interesting how we have these ties and loyalties to our families, even if they are dysfunctional.

    The first thing that comes to mind for me around this, is that wherever you go, you will make friends and they will be your chosen family and your kids will benefit for their love and support. There’s no rule (except in our heads) that says we have to stay close to our family of origin.

    Something I would suggest, is doing the mind/body/heart/soul exercise I recommended to Linda, but do it with your kids in mind.

    Touch into your higher truth around what would be best for you and them. What does your intuition tell you? When you imagine staying where you are and having your kids involved with your family what comes up in your body? What emotions? What is your gut instinct? Then place a hand over your heart and notice what it feels.

    Then imagine going back to Colorado and establishing a home there and notice what your intuition, gut response, emotions and heart feel.

    Another suggestion is to center within your spiritual self and envision each of your children standing in front of you. Look past physical appearances and see the soul within each one of them. Ask them on a soul level what would be best for them.

    I hope these suggestions help.

    Take care,

    Gini

  6. chantal Says:
    April 1st, 2011 at 11:45 pm

    hi my name is Chantal.

    I am very happy that I found this websit, because those two letters confirm that
    what I did (moving away of my family from montreal, to vancouver, )was right. and me too after 3years away from them I decided to go back in montreal. I took this decision because I am bipolar
    and I tought that it would be maybe good for me to be close to my family because I felt a episode
    coming…That s the worst decision I took in my life! I come from a disfonctional, alcoolic family
    and I felt and I think that s what they did; is to take that opportunity (being vulnerable to them as
    a mentaly ill person in a delicate state Depressive and psychotic,)to kick my *** in anyway
    and in anytime they could. There I ve been place in houses for mentally disable people and
    it seems allright with me but after fives years I felt I needed to get out, I didn t want to do do my
    life there. but for them, my mother sister and brother, it seems to annoying them when I started
    to talk about that. I couldn t stay there being punch by them and me I felt that I was allright enought to go back to have a life. but them they wanted me stay in those houses, they were
    completly opposed to it. Sick or not I had to get out of that, so I bought a ticket, told noone and
    went back to the place I choose and felt it was my home. Here in vancouver I got myself a psychiatiste, my appartement, a little life that I like, :) Life came back in me and I m more
    grounded and more in reality and not depressed because I think I am were I want to be.
    And when I arrived here( in vancouver) my new psychiatrite beleived that I ve been misdiagnose
    so I m off medication since one year and by far I am pretty stable,so maybe I have another anxiety
    illness. But with all that what I want to say is in my illness they didn t help me like I tought they would do and when someone felt that they had to go away from their family the first time,
    it s because they were right about it. And sometime we dream to make our lifes in a place we choose and when we go back to the family at that place we left at first for the best, we feel we regress and all our wills, intentions, and goals, looses it s purposes, so we feel out of lifes and
    out of our way. and sometimes (it s in their heads of the family members) on that second time
    they have that chance to win on you in life, so it s pretty destructive and they are pretty aggressive on that second time on you being back home, me I think on that time they try to put you out of your track, big deal in order for them to feel better about what they did or doing of their lifes. when you leave one time it s to go fowrard but sometime that second time proves you that what you think what s good for you, is right. So those letters showed me that so thank you. : )
    in that

  7. chantal Says:
    April 1st, 2011 at 11:58 pm

    Because I forgot to mention it, about ‘out of you track’ I mean they distract you from yourself (your life, your goals, taking care of yourself, your dreams), they want to bring you out of you life, by giving you those roles. me I think that what they did to me, so I think I was ungrounded, I didn t want to be in montreal with them, I had nothing to do there! so that s it! : )

  8. Gini Grey Says:
    April 2nd, 2011 at 1:40 pm

    Hi Chantal,

    Thanks for sharing your experience - sounds like quite the journey you’ve been through in coming home to yourself.

    It just dawned on me from what you said about going home for a second time shows you that your first choice to move away from family was right. Perhaps on a soul level we choose dysfunctional family members as a way to push our buttons so we can learn, grow, heal and move more into our true authentic selves (so in a way, we can thank them for their bizzare way of helping us move forward in life:)

    Enjoy living your dreams in Vancouver,

    Gini

  9. chantal Says:
    April 5th, 2011 at 10:32 pm

    Thank you for your comment :) It s was very nice! and yes I guess that s how we learn in life
    to go foward because now I am more self confident about how I feel about decisions that I have to take in life that no one else can, so thank you!!

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