Posted on July 1st, 2010
Nourish your Spirit with Stillness
Nourish your Mind with Knowledge
Nourish your Heart with Unconditional Love
Nourish your Body with Living Food
Nourish your Relationships with Thoughtfulness
~ Tim Ong
Kind, caring, considerate behaviors stem from thoughtfulness; being thoughtful grows out of conscious awareness and compassion. To be thoughtful doesn’t mean twisting and bending out of alignment to meet others’ needs. When we are centered and balanced we are naturally thoughtful to ourselves as well as others.
With conscious awareness of our impact on the world, we consider the ripple effect of our words and actions. We are also considerate towards ourselves - our mental, physical and emotional needs. We express care and concern to loved ones and the environment. Extending a kind thought or gesture, knowing it will brighten another’s day, becomes the norm.
Being thoughtful involves letting go of self-preoccupation, over busyness, and compulsive reactivity in order to be aware of how our lives intertwine with others. It takes us out of isolation and far from codependence into a balanced state of interdependence. We know on a deep level that we are all filled with the same spiritual essence. What we offer others is what we give to ourselves.
Insights into Thoughtfulness
♦ Who are you most thoughtful toward? What situations is it easy for you to consider others’ needs? How do you express your thoughtfulness?
♦ What situations or people do you have difficulty being thoughtful? What gets in the way? What would you have to let go of or embrace in order to be more kind, caring and considerate?
♦ How are you thoughtful toward yourself? Are you able to set boundaries, be honest and express your truth in a thoughtful way? Are you kind and considerate to yourself?
Inspiration for Being Thoughtful
♦ Become aware of one thing that gets in the way of your thoughtfulness. Perhaps it’s due to self-absorption, or being too busy, stressed and overwhelmed. Maybe it’s because you haven’t developed compassion; the ability to understand another’s situation by putting yourself in their shoes. Be willing to shift, change or let go of one behavior or attitude that interferes with being thoughtful toward others.
♦ Brainstorm a list of ways you could express thoughtfulness towards others. Find ways that come naturally for you. Are you good at complimenting, supporting or encouraging others? Do you like to share interesting books, CDs or DVDs with friends? Is there something your spouse or children would love to receive? Does the cashier at the checkout stand look like she needs a loving smile? As you extend thoughtfulness from a centered, balanced state, you will give to yourself as much as you give to others.
♦ Find ways to be more thoughtful to yourself. Check in with your body, mind, heart and soul on a daily basis to see what you need. Does your body need to take a break and stretch? Does your mind need to lighten up with some humor? Does your heart need to fill with self-love? What would nurture your soul today? Being thoughtful to you will have a positive ripple effect onto your family, friends, work and community.
What does being thoughtful mean to you? Please share your insights below.