Wholeness
Posted on October 1st, 2010
“Individuality is only possible if it unfolds from wholeness.” David Bohm
Embracing wholeness is acknowledging our fullness, completeness and oneness with the Source of all life. It’s knowing deep within that we are not separate, isolated human beings, but spiritual beings woven together into the fabric of the Universe.
We lose this sense of wholeness when we go outside ourselves for fulfillment. When we look to others for our sense of Self. When we believe the source of love comes from another, not from ourselves. It is then that we forget who we are and start to give our power away. Our enjoyment of simple pleasures, interactions with others, rewarding work experiences, and deep intimate relationships lose their sparkle when we move off center.
As we reconnect to our truth that we are whole and complete, we feel secure, safe, treasured and loved within ourselves. We’re not afraid to learn, grow and take risks. We know that as one relationship ends another arises, as one career fades another brightens, and as our body ages, we are still here in our wholeness. This realization sets us free to be ourselves, follow our dreams, and share our love regardless of the outcome.
Nothing can be taken away from us when we are whole, so we have nothing to lose and everything to give.
Insights into Feeling Whole
♦ Do you feel whole within yourself or do you feel incomplete somehow? What supports you to feel whole and complete? What triggers a feeling of emptiness? When you feel empty or incomplete, what do you fill yourself with in order to feel whole?
♦ Does having a partner, career, or material object help you to feel whole? Do you feel empty when something disappears from your life? What’s the belief underneath that?
♦ On one level we are all interconnected and therefore need each other and all of nature to thrive, but on another level we are whole within. Losing sight of this can turn a healthy need into neediness. Where do you operate from on the scale of co-creating to co-dependence?
Inspiration for Embracing Your Wholeness
♦ Reflect on a time in your life when you felt completely whole. You may not remember the details and it may have just been for a second, but tune into the feeling now. How would you describe this wholeness? Do you feel like you can do anything, be anything, accomplish anything? Within our wholeness lives the power to create and manifest our life in any way we want.
♦ Scan over your current situation and imagine what it would feel like to not have all the external people and things in your life. Who would you be without the people, roles and material objects? If you changed partners, jobs and location, would you still be you? If you feel empty or incomplete without any of those in your life, reflect on what it is they give you. Can you give this to yourself? When we can give ourselves all the love, attention and care we crave, we can receive this from others without attachment.
♦ Turn inward and center within yourself. Take a few deep breaths and fill your lungs with the life giving oxygen that is always there for you in abundance. Tune into your heart center and feel the love that is there waiting for you. Even if you are only aware of a small spark of love, focus on this and allow it to grow and embrace your whole body from the inside out. Then connect with the God of your Heart that lives within you and around you. Expand into your wholeness. Open your eyes and notice how you relate to the world from this place of feeling whole.
Please share any insights or questions on embracing your wholeness in the comments section below - I look forward to hearing from you.





October 2nd, 2010 at 8:02 am
All is one and one is all!
Very nice article! Thank you Gine..
As Dr Dyer says, if God is in everything and we all came from the Source, then we can assume that God is within us as well..
i have came to realise in my life that the more we look and give energy to the higher self of others, to their Spirit and Divine Grace, the more we can connect to our Higher Self and realise our true Divine Spiritual Nature!
Dimitrios
October 2nd, 2010 at 2:51 pm
Hello Dimitrios,
Yes, I’ve been realizing that too - as I see the spirit in others, I operate from my own higher, spiritual self.
Thanks for your comment,
Gini
January 6th, 2011 at 1:27 am
I dont understand this part:
If you feel empty or incomplete without any of those in your life, reflect on what it is they give you. Can you give this to yourself? When we can give ourselves all the love, attention and care we crave, we can receive this from others without attachment.
so if we can do this, we dont need another person to be in love with? to share those intimate feeling?
January 6th, 2011 at 5:04 pm
Hello Mei hoh,
Thanks for asking that question, it’s good for me to clarify.
When we can fill ourselves with inner love, joy, amusement, peace etc. then we are less susceptable to codependant relationships. We don’t feel needy when it comes to love.
It’s wonderful to have someone to love and share intimate feelings with. When both partners also love themselves, they will have healthy boundaries. But if they love each other from a needy (can’t live without you) kind of place, they become dependant on eachother in an unhealthy way.
When we are whole within, we share our love with others and we enjoy a balanced giving and receiving of love. When we don’t feel whole, we tend to lean on others for love and feel lonely and desperate without them.
Does this make sense?
Gini