Posted on October 19th, 2009
Like a flower blowing gently in the breeze, being in a state of non-resistance means going with the flow, while being grounded at the same time. When we stop resisting life we move into ease and everything falls into perfect alignment. Synchronicities abound, aches and pains diminish, stress melts away, creativity flourishes, relationships heal, and we experience a profound sense of peace.
Resistance requires effort whereas being in a state of non-resistance requires no effort at all. When we are in resistance we become stuck, defensive, shut down and reactive. Even slight forms of resistance can cause emotional and physical distress, blinding us to possibilities and solutions. Fear, judgment, and denial are all forms of resistance.
Non-resistance involves accepting what is, even if it is unpleasant as resisting it only makes it worse. Resistance acts like glue, sticking us to the things we don’t want to be near. Yet when we let go, relax and move into a state of ease, difficult situations disappear or don’t bother us as much.
When we live in a state of non-resistance, without holding, pushing away or struggling for or against anything, we move into the stream of life where the essence of our being is free to flow through us and into our daily activities.
Noticing When You’re in Resistance
The first step in moving out of resistance is to recognize when you are in it. Become familiar with what it feels like when you are resistant versus non-resistant.
Non-Resistant VS Resistant
Sense of flow Tension
Lighter emotions Heavy emotions
Energy No Energy
Can hear Can’t hear
Easy to see mistakes Hard to admit mistakes
Self-control Controlled externally
How to Stop Resisting
If you notice you are in a state of resistance, the next step is to try one or more of the following suggestions as a way to become non-resistant.
♦ Visually. Imagine your body is clear and see-through like glass or water so nothing can stick to it. This will allow anyone else’s judgments, problems or emotions to pass right through and out of your space.
♦ Physically. Do something natural to relax your body - go for a walk in nature, stretch, breath deeply, or do an enjoyable form of exercise.
♦ Emotionally. Feel emotions as they arise - don’t stuff or repress them - let them be there and notice they are just the body’s way of communicating to you through vibration.
♦ Mentally. Release resentments and judgments. Learn to let go of thoughts and beliefs that create a resistant attitude.
♦ Spiritually. Center within and meditate on the state of non-resistance. Touch into your spiritual essence of ease and lightness.
As you practice being non-resistant, it will soon become a way of life and you will be the flower blowing gently in the breeze.