Posted on June 30th, 2009
Practical, healthy boundaries for how we spend our time, what types of relationships we have, and so on help us to maintain balance. Energy boundaries help us to keep our energy in our own space while keeping others’ energy out. Without clear energy boundaries we may take on others’ judgments, emotions and problems which leave us feeling heavy and confused. We may also spread our energy in too many places, leaving us feeling scattered and depleted. When we are aware of our energy boundaries we feel whole, clear and light.
Our energy doesn’t end where our body ends. It extends around our body as an electromagnetic field called the aura. Many call this their personal space and feel uncomfortable when someone invades it. Perhaps you’ve experienced this directly when someone moved in too close for comfort. Or you may have sensed this indirectly when someone stared at you from across the room, yet it felt as though they were in your space.
Energy can move through space without the body going with it. Thoughts, intentions, emotions and images are all energy particles, and if you don’t own your aura space, you can easily take on others’ energy. Owning your aura and energy space is all about awareness. It’s not visible to most people, but with practice and sensitivity you can feel the subtlety of your aura and begin to create healthier boundaries.
First, let’s look at the difference between having clear energy boundaries and having unclear boundaries:
Clear Energy Boundaries VS Unclear Energy Boundaries
Feel solid and whole Feel fuzzy and spacey
Clear headed and focused Confused and distracted
In touch with own emotions Easy to take on others’ emotions
Aware of others without
taking on their stuff Easy to take on others problems
In charge of self Controlling or controlled by others
Here are steps you can take to become more aware of your aura and create clear energy boundaries:
♦ Find your center. Close your eyes and bring all of your awareness in to the center of your head, a few inches back from your forehead. Being centered supports you in being aware of yourself as a spiritual energetic being (for more info, read the article on Centered Within).
♦ Tune into the subtle energy field surrounding your body. It’s like being in an energy bubble. Notice where your energy field ends and the rest of the world begins. If you are very sensitive to energy, you might notice if you have holes or gaps in your energy field. Use your intention to fill those in with your own energy.
♦ Play with the size of your aura. Bring your aura in closer to your body to help you get a better feel for it. Have the outside edge of your aura an inch or two away from you. Notice what this feels like. Does it feel constrained or comfortable? When do you have it in this close to your body (perhaps when you don’t feel safe or are trying to be invisible)?
♦ Expand your aura to an arms length away. Having your aura at an arms length distance from your body all the way around - in front, behind, beside, above and below is a healthy distance for owning your aura. Notice what this feels like.
♦ Expand your aura to fill the room. This will help you to become aware of what it feels like when have your aura too big for you to own. Do you feel big and visible or unsafe and unreal? When do you have your aura this big? Bring it back to a distance that feels healthy for you.
♦ Smooth the outside edge of your aura.With your aura at a healthy distance around your body (usually an arms length distance away from the body is appropriate), imagine smoothing the outside edge to fill in any gaps. This will also help you to define where your personal space ends.
♦ Clear out anyone else’s energy. Imagine running a gold shower of energy from above your head, through your body and aura space as a way to cleanse your aura field. Let any foreign energy release down your grounding (for more info on grounding read the Staying Grounded article).
Open your eyes and go through your day with the intention of owning your aura. When you own your aura and personal space, you will be less likely to take on others’ problems, emotions and judgments. You will also be less likely to scatter your energy around.
Whenever you feel fuzzy, spacey, confused or feel as though you are carrying someone else’s ’stuff’, re-own your aura by defining where the edges are, give yourself a quick gold shower energy cleanse, and you will feel whole again.
How does it feel to be more aware of your aura space? Please share your experience, ask any questions, or offer any insights in the comments section below.